October 24, 2012

Reality about me: Nabin Nepal

Realizing who you are and how you perceive things around you is one of the biggest step you will ever take in life. Like a good job and good academic background, this is also the base upon which you will keep growing up.

 Phisophically I am a realist and behaviorally I am an introvert.

On the remainder of this post, I am going to tell who I really am based on this two topics. I will taking help of few articles already on the internet. Why?  Who will believe what I say? seriously, Who the hell am I?.

I am Nabin Nepal, and I am just a simple guy. If you take your time to read through them, hopefully you will be able to meet me next time without feeling ackward around me. 😉

The realiable Realist

Source: Your iPersonic Type: The Reliable Realist

Reliable Realists like me are down-to-earth and responsible-minded. They are precise, reserved and demanding. Their most prominent quality is reliability and they will always make every effort to keep any promise given. Reliable Realists are more quiet and serious persons, they do not talk a lot but they are good listeners. They sometimes seem reserved and distant to outsiders although they have a great deal of wit and esprit. Their strong points are thoroughness, a marked sense of justice, doggedness and a pragmatic, vigorous and purposeful manner. They do not dither about if something has to be done. They do what is necessary without wasting words.

They not only expect a lot of themself but also of others. Once they have set their mind on something, it is difficult to persuade them otherwise. They do not like to leave anything to chance. Planning means safety to them, as well as order and discipline. They have no problem respecting authorities and hierarchies but do not like to delegate tasks. They are certain that others would not deal with them as conscientiously as they do. In management positions, they are very task-oriented – they make sure that things are well done; however, they do not have a great deal of interest in personal contacts at work.

As a Reliable Realist they belong to the introverted personality types. They don’t appreciate too much commotion around them preferring to work relatively independently of others. They need to give themselves plenty of time to work in peace and deal with their projects thoroughly and intensely. Their ability to concentrate is exceptionally high and if they are interested in something they can truly immerse themselves forgetting everything around them. Very strongly team-oriented professional fields, or employment where their concentration is continuously disturbed, or their work is disrupted, are not really for them. It is just too important to them to complete their projects really well.

One or two colleagues who are on their wavelength or possibly a small group of like-minded colleagues are the most they need. Too many people are stressful to them because the emotionality and irrationality that comes with interpersonal relationships tends to disturb them. They are reserved when revealing themselves, and often have the effect of being aloof. Sometimes, and although it may not be their intention, they even convey the impression of being dismissive to the people around them. The continuous locker room and water cooler banter enervate them more than anything else. For them, work is work, and they feel that private matters don’t really belong there. When they choose their profession, watch out that they are not made to adjust to and interact with others around the clock.

Reliability is their middle name. Whoever hands them a project can rest assured that it will be handled diligently and delivered on time. The thought not to keep a promise or a commitment on time is total horror to them. Therefore, it is important to them to be in an environment providing smooth working conditions where they receive consistent and predictable feedback about their efforts. Clear and definite objectives, and the assurance that the necessary resources for their activities will be available, are a must.


Few years back, I thought myself as I am an introvert with people I don’t know and extrovert around people I know, colleagues, family, friends e.t.c. But as it turns outs this behavior is complete introversion. I am not unaware of the fact that such tendencies are not social, but nevertheless it is very normal behavior.

The common modern perception is that introverts tend to be more reserved and less outspoken in groups. They often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, using computers, hiking and fishing. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, engineer, composer and inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though he or she may enjoy interactions with close friends. Trust is usually an issue of significance: a virtue of utmost importance to an introvert choosing a worthy companion. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate, especially observed in developing children and adolescents.They are more analytical before speaking.Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings and engagement, introversion having even been defined by some in terms of a preference for a quiet, more minimally stimulating environment.

Introversion is not seen as being identical to shy or to being a social outcast. Introverts prefer solitary activities over social ones, whereas shy people (who may be extroverts at heart) avoid social encounters out of fear,and the social outcast has little choice in the matter of his or her solitude.

Source: Extraversion and Introversion

Mostly people take introversion in a very wrong way. There are a lot of misunderstanding with the topic of Who are introverts? Below are the a list of myths that the society has regarding introvert people.

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

It can be terribly destructive for an Introvert to deny themselves in order to get along in an Extrovert-Dominant World. Like other minorities, Introverts can end up hating themselves and others because of the differences. If you think you are an Introvert, I recommend you research the topic and seek out other Introverts to compare notes. The burden is not entirely on Introverts to try and become “normal.” Extroverts need to recognize and respect us, and we also need to respect ourselves.

Source: 10 Myth about introverts

Carl, wrote these points based on his experience. And me myself as an introvert am saying that these facts are very true and often misunderstood by almost everyone.


Some of my close friends often get surprised at me. Quoting some of my them:

danny says

I think too much. More than it is necessary.

mundre says,

Haven’t seen anyone, who takes his relations this seriously.

Fucchi says,

I am so complicated.

I really don’t know what to tell you guys, neither I have anything to  tell to other people reading this post. It’s just a simple reality about me 🙂

Author: Nabin Nepal (Starx)

Hello, I am Nabin Nepal and you can call me Starx. This is my blog where write about my life and my involvements. I am a Software Developer, A Cyclist and a Realist. I hope you will find my blog interesting. Follow me on Google+


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